Male Subs & Toxic Gender Stereotypes

 

Weak, passive, needy.  Wimp.  Sissy.  Slut.  Bitch.  

These are just a few of the ugly stereotypes heaped upon male subs.  Every single one is rooted in misogyny. The prevailing belief is that femininity is associated with submission, and there's nothing worse in the world than for a man to be submissive & therefore, feminine.  Those who hold this worldview believe women are just second-class/failed men, far beneath them and barely above "child" & "dog" in the social hierarchy.  The one they incidentally created.  Pretty convenient, eh?  Everything from religion to the political system, military & judicial system is run by & created for men, therefore when a man behaves like a woman he foregoes his innate privilege.  Most "normie" men can't imagine doing that because the barriers protecting their fragile egos won't allow it. 

Women are supposed to be the submissive, receptive partners during sex.  The ones who lie there passively while the big, strong man takes charge & acts out his wildest base fantasies.  We're expected to be the meek, servile partner in romantic relationships, the nurturing/empathetic mom, grandma & friend.  The femdom/male sub dynamic turns that on its head, enabling both sides to experience the other's point of view for a time, albeit in an exaggerated form.  The power exchange is intense, with the Dom gaining power directly by taking it while the sub is empowered indirectly by surrendering his power and privilege while entrusting his ego to someone who very well may crush it. THAT TAKES GUTS.  BALLS, EVEN.   

Contrast is what sets good apart from bad in life.  Day from night, summer from winter.  Pleasure from pain.  Only in bondage can a man truly appreciate freedom.  Only from a position of vulnerability can he appreciate strength & power.  Only in servitude can he learn why it's better to give than to receive.  

TL;DR - It takes a truly strong man to take the submissive role & be PROUD of it.  He must be comfortable with his sexuality and masculinity and not give a damn about the opinions of his sexist peers.  Acting like a macho hardass?  That's easy, basic... expected.  It requires no courage or self-examination whatsoever.  But to surrender everything you've ever known in exchange for the unknown requires true mettle.