Age Verification: Fuck Off

 So you're age verified ("AV'ed" in cool internet shorthand): great.  Would you like a 🍪? 

What other dommes and subs do is THEIR business, but I have to speak up when they start telling me how to run MY shit.  I know you mean well but all you're really doing is complying with the forces whose sole goal is to snuff out online anonymity entirely, eventually requiring "verification" just to connect to the internet.  Think it can't be done?  In China, for instance, kids 8th grade and under are physically limited to 4 hours per day of TikTok, and the content they can access is all patriotic & scientific in nature.  By the government.  That's to say nothing of their creepy "social credit" surveillance system, which is damn near that bad in the UK where CCTV is always watching.

I'm sure the U.S. government would outsource the dirty work to individual states or corporations like Meta and Google so as to skirt the federal censorship laws, hiding behind the convenient "but corporate censorship is A-OK!" and "states' rights!" when they know damn well these online companies constitute a public utility and have a virtual monopoly on telecommunications, which is the #1 method of  communicating these days.  It would be like if Southwestern Bell telephone company listened in on your calls & refused to let you use the phone without "age verification".  




I'm A "Mommy", Not Your Mother

^^^ That part. ^^^

What I'm about to say is likely to be controversial and unpopular, but you all need to hear it:  the only people whose job it is to "age verify" anyone are the parents of these minors running wild on the internet.  Not the Nanny State government, not big tech companies and damn sure not little old me.  My Terms of Service clearly state that my services are for adults 18 & older, and that minors will be reported to local law enforcement in their jurisdiction.  And I by god MEAN IT.  But since when is accepting a business's TOS & selecting "yes, I'm 18+" not sufficient to access a website or communicate with a person online? That's always been the standard, now suddenly the entire PLANET is pushing this oppressive anti-privacy, anti-anonymity nonsense.  And it's horrifying (but not surprising) how fast so many of you have swallowed it--no questioning, no critical thought or pushback.  Just some old "I have nothing to hide herp, derp.  This could never come back to bite me!"

If that weren't bad enough, you're peer pressuring others in the findom/femdom world to get onboard and even name-calling/bullying those who refuse by insinuating or outright stating that "age verification should be the default/standard"!  Sorry, but fuck that.  I'm throwing a flag on that bogus assertion.  Yes, you should do whatever you feel is right for YOUR business.  No, in no sane universe should everyone just automatically and uniformly entrust their identity & online security to startups with names like "Yoti" and "Jumio".  Especially when data breaches of huge corporations like Sony, Amazon & Walmart happen weekly.  Anyone who passively accepts a FACE SCAN to use the internet is too far gone to help.

Online anonymity is vital for free expression, online activism & protection of personal info.

Take the Tea App incident:  an app that billed itself as a safe space for women to warn others about men they'd dated who had engaged in physical or sexual abuse, major deception or other "red flag" behaviors was infiltrated by members of notoriously scummy 4Chan recently.  Its users' names, addresses & other personally identifying info was leaked to God knows how many violent and vengeful men.  Now all the women who trusted that app are scrambling and wondering if they'll be doxxed, stalked or hunted down and killed.  They'll presumably have to live in fear of this the rest of their lives, as there's no expiration date on revenge or stalking.

Now imagine some data broker getting hold of not only your driver's license or other gov't ID but your ENTIRE PORN HISTORY--videos watched, liked, all your messages & comments, downloads, uploads & more--and auctioning it off on the Dark Web to the highest bidder.  How's THAT for sextortion material? Any criminal could blackmail you into compliance, forcing you to send money or do other horrific things or else face being outed to your spouse, your employer or entire neighborhood.  The possibilities for abuse are endless.  This is how Nigerian romance scammers obtain the names of elderly women to target with their phone scams & Facebook catfishing, and very soon it'll be used for even more nefarious purposes once they can link your real face/name to your entire porn viewing history or even your whole search history.   

Don't say I didn't fucking warn you.  As stated, I take no issue with another domme's right to run her business how she sees fit, but I also require that right be extended to me in return.  Implying that NOT giving in to this privacy nightmare is somehow lazy or negligent is incredibly presumptuous: maybe some of us are actively resisting it on principle.  You can't outsource the duties of parents to random others who may encounter your badly behaved kids.  Every time society has tried, it's ended badly.  It's not my job as a consenting, taxpaying adult citizen to forfeit my right to online anonymity or what little privacy I have left in the name of protecting YOUR kid from some imagined threat!  Not that I could anyway.  Because that's not within my capabilities.  

If our leaders were really so concerned about child sex abuse, Epstein's frequent flyers would be behind bars.  To date, not one of them has been put on the stand or faced charges for crimes they were caught on tape committing!  Ditto all the pervs at Diddy's sex parties where kids as young as 10 were present.  Stop believing everything the government does is for your own good when they couldn't give a shit if you live or die.  If you want to normalize something, normalize not giving your kid or teen a smartphone.